Sure I dream a world where I don't need to come out multiple times every single day as a Queer Non-Binary Trans person in the attempt of hooking up with people that are not transmysoginistic and queer-phobic (and be warned: you can be served transmysoginy and queer-phobia outside AND inside gay, lesbian and bisexual communities).
Fact is, in the current world avoiding the use of labels would mean trying to pass as someone I'm not and adapt myself to someone else's needs.
So I have to thank those labels and their relevance that the vast majority of multi-privileged white folks seem to be unable to understand for they probably have never experienced social and systemic exclusion and invisibilization. I thank those labels for being available to me when I meet a gynecologist, a breast specialist, a selesperson, even a hairdresser. Those labels are words of resistance that I can use to communicate myself and to better discourage those people from teaching me what they assume to be my needs and issues, desire and tastes, based on some algorithm they believe to be unavoidably related to my gender and sexual orientation, which they simply assume by the set-up of my body.
So to those who are still arguing that labels are useless, meaningless, possibly problematic, or even ridiculous when they get "too long", and to those who are also claiming that LGBPTQIA+ communities and spaces are no longer needed, or are exclusionary of some people (people that don't actually need them), or serve the only purpose of LGBPTQIAs segregation, I invite you to join me in my daily life in Rome to see the purposes those labels you roll your eyes at actually serve. And I also invite you to join me in my daily life in Berlin to see the purposes that queer and trans* communities, houses and spaces actually serve.
[photo: me today, portrayed by Daniele Manzella]